Give Yourself Some Grace

Breathe and get back to it!

Stefani Vader
3 min readJan 28, 2024
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I had big goals for 2024 and a plan to make those goals a reality. Then, once again, life kicked me in the ass and dropped me to my knees. I’m not going to lie… I’m still struggling to pick myself back up and move forward. When I look at my options though, there aren’t any.

I remember clearly when my boys were toddlers. They would fall and start to cry and I’d be there saying, “You’re okay. Get up, brush off, wipe your tears and keep on going.” They learned to fall and they learned to pick themselves up.

Right now on a daily basis I have to remember that lesson. There is no option. When I’m struggling, I have to pick myself up, brush myself off, wipe away the tears and keep on going. It’s hard. There are days I want someone there to be that person to remind me that’s what I need to do.

My goals have not changed. Have I made progress on them? Not really. I have to be okay with that. Each day is a new day with new opportunities to move forward and make strides. Some days may be a little baby step, while others might be a stumble backwards.

I’m giving myself grace. I’m not perfect, nor do I want to be. I want to be me, which right now requires me to find myself again. I’m working on that. I’ve gone too long trying to make everyone else happy and be the…

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Stefani Vader

Lover of reading and writing. Hater of retail work. Small fish in a big pond, learning as I go.